THE METHODOLOGY
Set yourself up for success
Emotionally AND practically!
Unlike more traditional coaching which may focus mostly on the practical, logistical, and emotional aspects of divorce, Unitive Divorce Coaching also looks at your well-being with a trauma-aware and neuroscientifically sound approach.
The "unitive" aspect means that my coaching approach helps you find a sense of wholeness and self-integration during and after the divorce process.
We focus on nervous system regulation through written work, somatic exercises, short and effective movements with breath and specific outer-world actions to come to a place of regulation.
You do not need any experience to benefit from these practices but I have found them essential to be able to make healthy life decisions when it matters the most.
The goal of Integrative Divorce Coaching is to ensure that my client is supported in all areas of their life as they navigate the complexities of ending a relationship. This might involve helping you to:
Understand and manage your emotional responses. (Some knowledge of how our brains function under pressure is a game-changer here).
Set realistic future life goals and expectations, including career, finances, home life, parenting, and more.
Navigate the logistical and legal aspects of divorce with clarity and purpose.
Ensure ongoing physical well-being through a trauma and mindfulness lens.
Explore spiritual or personal growth as life is redefined post-divorce.
The integrative approach is about treating the whole person’s experience, leading to growth, happiness and an embodied sense of peace.
“I did not expect my life to be better after Divorce. To be honest, I thought my life was over but this coaching Lisa offers has given me a life post-divorce I never thought was possible. My kids are happier, and I'm happier. I have a daily yoga and meditation practice now too thanks to her expert guidance”. - Kirsty, 49
It’s possible that a breakup or divorce can be one of the most freeing and revitalizing experiences of your life
But how do we get there?!
We lay the foundations for your long-term well-being, helping you recover, take inventory, and face what needs to be processed, allowing you to move on and thrive whether single or in a new relationship. We consciously process grief without denying or bypassing any difficult stuff.
Learn to feel feelings without drowning in them - Emotional regulation FTW! We can dial down the intensity. The only way out is very definitely through (and yes, it sucks until it doesn’t).
We work through all the practical elements of a breakup or divorce when we are regulated so we can make the best decisions regarding our children / joint finances and agreements.
We make practical plans for the future in the 11 Areas of Life:
Health and Body
Spirituality and relationship with self
Money
Career and Work
Family Relationships
Creativity, Passion and Adventure
Romance and Sex
Home Life
Time
Relating with others (non-romantic)
Vices and Character Traits
You move into the life you have envisioned, free from the BS that has held you back in the past.
“One of my main goals is to help end the generational cycle of pain & suffering caused when divorces go wrong, so that if children are involved, they, and then their children, and their children can experience challenging life events but not be defined by them.” Lisa - 45 (me!)